Another update on Jacqui Smith and proposed changes to UK prostitution laws

I’m reposting this from Caroline’s blog. Please spread the word.

(Jacqui Smith, yes? We all know, oui?)

From the IUSW

The second reading of the new bill is now on MONDAY THE 12TH.

We must get as many MPs as is possible to speak out against the governments proposals.

This is a draft letter from the IUSW.

Please will everyone concerned with this industry send this to your MP. If you need help finding out who your local MP is IM me and I will give you details. [or check out this site]

Clients can of course change the begining to something appropriate such as concerned member of the public.

This is urgent please do this asap.

I am writing to you as a resident of your constituency who is (a concerned member of the public)involved in the sex industry. The Policing and Crime Bill, that has its second reading on 12 January, contains proposals which will make people in the sex industry less safe and increase our social exclusion. The proposals make it more likely that street sex workers will be forced to work in greater isolation and as a consequence be hurt and killed, and less likely that victims of trafficking will come to the attention of the police. The proposals directly play into the hands of exploitative and violent criminals and traffickers by decreasing the ways to work safely and making sex workers less likely to call the police if they are the victims of crime and abuse.

The Home Office has failed to consult with sex workers’ organisations during the preparation of legislation (neither the International Union of Sex Workers or the English Collective of Prostitutes are considered to be stakeholders on this issue according to the Home Office report on Tackling the Demand for Prostitution of November 2008; neither is the uk Network of Sex Work Projects which provides frontline health and support services to people in the sex industry through 63 projects across the uk).

In addition, the proposals completely ignore an enormous range of academic research which shows that increased criminalisation has a negative effect: we need evidence based policy to create effective change and protect the vulnerable. The magnitude of the Home Office’s misinterpretation of evidence is shown in the Regulatory Impact Assessments associated with the Bill, which state that Pentameter 2 (a nationwide police operation) identified 800 brothels containing trafficked women. In fact, the police’s own figures for Pentameter 2 show raids on 822 premises located 250 victims of trafficking: the Home Office has confused the number of premises raided with the number of actual victims found.

I ask you to condemn these proposals during the second reading debate, and call for policy on the sex industry to treat our safety and human rights as the highest priority. This can only be achieved by meaningful consultation with those most effected: we are the experts in our own lives.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Like I said with the petition - if you’re in the UK and have an MP, please do get involved with this. If you’re not in the UK, please post this on your blog or website for your UK readers, or forward it in email - anything to spread the word.

(cross-posted at Sex In The Public Sqaure and Shiraz Socialist)

links for 2009-01-05

Twitter updates for 2009-01-04

  • Tried sleeping w/o Ambien last night & it was hard. But at least I’ve been taking only 2.5 mg a night (a quarter of a pill). #
  • @seasonothebitch - I’ll be frank w/ you. I HATE Sympathy for the Devil and I’ve never understood why so many ppl like it. It’s tedious. in reply to seasonothebitch #
  • @AlexaRPD - Oh wow, what does that make me? I’ve got over 8500 updates! in reply to AlexaRPD #
  • @MsNaughtyDiva - That’s what Twittersnooze.com is for! And personally, if someone has all “read my blog” tweets, I unfollow. #
  • @AlexaRPD - Oh geez, the radfems will *really* hate me now! in reply to AlexaRPD #
  • Aw shucks. Thanks, Aiken Area Progressive! http://is.gd/exhq #
  • The social media Bingo cards are printed and look awesome! I’m excited about Thursday’s #smcatl event. (Reminder: http://is.gd/exIb) #
  • Carolina chickadee has been carrying on all day in the tree near our balcony. #
  • Thought our dryer was broken but realized it was user error due to bad UI of handle. Thanks for making me waste energy, bad UI. :P #
  • Checking my work email so I won’t have to spend all day tomorrow wading thru it. #
  • @ElisaC - That’s about as frequently as I buy new clothes. I hate clothes shopping. in reply to ElisaC #
  • Had a stomach ache earlier but starting to feel better now. @rustytanton is making yummy spaghetti. #
  • @LiteratePervert - Frustrating comment, but your response was excellent in reply to LiteratePervert #
  • Hmm… @blogdiva’s comments re: sex workers on this thread really disappointed me http://ping.fm/prsMs #
  • WTF, our neighbors are having some kind of raucous party. Did I mention we’re starting the process on making an offer on a house. *gulp* #

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links for 2009-01-04

  • "We read all the 'major' newspapers, both regional and international. And we have noticed that the international press rarely carries a good African story. The undersea cables connecting Kenya to the internet trunk? Ignored. The human rights of homosexuals, lesbians and transsexuals in Uganda? Overlooked. The preponderance of news coverage on Africa is on war, disease and corruption. We believe Africa deserves better, and we intend to do so."
  • "My colleague was a little frustrated by the woman who had been talking about me and complained of her behaviour that night. Drunk and unguarded I confessed I'd heard her talking about me and that it upset me because I always try to be nice to and about people and well, everyone starts out as an 'unknown' so it seems unfair to criticise someone for being one. He told me not to worry, that she could be like that, and that it was her problem. I've gone over this in my head a number of times, but it still scares me, still unsettles me. I guess, naively, I always thought burlesque, by its very nature should be fun and friendly. I don't deal well with bitchiness. When I encounter it, I want to run as far away as possible, so this incident is making question my whole decision to perform regularly. I'm sure that sounds ridiculous, and it certainly isn't logical, just borne of a childhood full of schoolyard bullying."
  • "If absinthe were a band, it would be Interpol, third-hand piffle masquerading as transgressive pop culture. If absinthe were sneakers, it would be a pair of laceless Chuck Taylors designed by John Varvatos for Converse. If it were facial hair, it would be the soul patch. If absinthe were a finish on kitchen and bath fixtures, it would be brushed nickel."
  • "So I know better than most what lies ahead for this woman if she insists that she live in a world where she can blog about the issues that matter to her and keep herself and her family safe from individuals like those who threatened her via email, who may or may not be the same people who are sworn to protect and serve people. But when someone states in writing that they're coming after you, it's going to make you fearful, it's going to make you always look over your shoulder and that's part of the thrill and the power these cowards exert over others."

Twitter updates for 2009-01-03

  • Looking for a laundromat with the big commercial size washers. Random, I know. (It’s so I can wash a bedspread.) #
  • @nikkistrick - I was thinking that too. Seems like an excuse to get lunch at Manuel’s! in reply to nikkistrick #
  • Are you fucking kidding me?? Blog comment: “it’s very hard for a man to stop. most women realize this, so they make prudent sexual choices.” #
  • I’m not feeling good today. I need to feel better. But how, I don’t know. We saw chickens at the Oakhurst Comm. Garden and that helped. #
  • Sending the biggest internet hugs to @melissagira #
  • A guy was supposed to buy one of our mics but it looks like he’s flaked out. Big shock. Gotta love Craigslist buyers. #
  • @thomasls - It very nearly *is* a line from that Kid Rock/Sheryl Crow song from ~6 yrs ago in reply to thomasls #
  • Downloading pics I took of chickens at the Oakhurt Community Garden today #
  • @jenbrock - That movie is done already?? Seems like I was just reading about it from Ernest Greene (Nina Hartley plays Hillary) in reply to jenbrock #
  • @jenbrock - …ok, just checked, I read about it in October. Time flies, the older I get. :\ in reply to jenbrock #
  • @audaciaray - Psst, I’m trying to buy the sex blogger calendar via your website, and it says your security certificate is invalid. in reply to audaciaray #
  • City chickens: http://is.gd/evLi #
  • ajc.com is ranked as a “Playful Primate” (#51) on The Truth Laid Bear. And it’s not the only non-blog spamming the system. #
  • LOL, quote of the night from @susiebright (re: BoingBoing): “They have me in ‘best gay blog’ which makes me feel like a misplaced shoe.” #
  • I have social decorum questions. Do you have answers? http://is.gd/evQW #

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Decorum

Rules of etiquette and social decorum - these are things with which I am unfamiliar. Trying to navigate the proper manners of a somewhat formal dinner party, for example, leaves me feeling like an idiot who’s all elbows, or as David Cross said, the Make-A-Wish Foundation kid in first class.

So I need reader input from people who might be somewhat familiar with this stuff. Whenever Rusty and I get married (no definite plans yet as to when that will be, but eventually) I was thinking we should register for stuff we want for our house. Towels, placemats, that sort of thing. We’ll know more after we move in, of course. But is it considered acceptable to register for stuff if you’re not having a big ceremony with lots of people invited (we’ll probably just hit up a justice of the peace somewhere), and let’s not forget that OH YE GODS I’ve been married before.

What are the rules here? And should I give a crap?

Basically I’m looking for a way to get free stuff. Is that déclassé, or just practical?

links for 2009-01-03

Twitter updates for 2009-01-02

  • Wondering if I’ll be able to go to WAM!2009, what w/ the scheduling and the financial stuff re: our home-buying timeline #
  • @jbrotherlove - The pic on the About page of Blogging While Brown cracks me up. Is that guy in the foreground *asleep*? in reply to jbrotherlove #
  • @SpaceyG - We looked in Underwood Hills; we don’t care about hipster but it was out of our price range in reply to SpaceyG #
  • About to go look at houses. When I get home I need to figure out the easiest/quickest way to make Bingo card markers! (the little circles) #
  • Saw some more houses, including one that reeked of pot. #
  • Thanks for the suggestions for Bingo markers, @gvonk and @RogueReverend! Both are great ideas. #
  • Contemplating a nap. See, this is another reason having kids doesn’t appeal to me at the moment. I love my spontaneous naps. #
  • @gvonk - At first I read that as “panties.” Wow, where’s my mind. Anyway, dirty or not, pennies are a good idea. in reply to gvonk #
  • In a few hours we’re going to go see if we can talk to the next-door neighbors on the house we like- see what the dog sitch is. :\ #
  • @absurdities - Well, I love babies. It’s just all the other stuff that goes along w/ actual *child-rearing* that doesn’t blow my skirt up. in reply to absurdities #
  • We’ll be selling some microphones on Craigslist momentarily - just letting the ATL Twitterverse know ahead of time in case you want ‘em. #
  • @griftdrift - Ah, good thing “credibility” is one of the words on my Bingo card for next Thurs. in reply to griftdrift #
  • Looking for a flight to DC for the Feminism2.0 conference http://www.fem2pt0.com #
  • @jbrotherlove - GoDaddy did the same thing for me a while back; I was very pleasantly surprised! in reply to jbrotherlove #
  • What?? There’s a .coop TLD? Since when? (e.g., local hippie market Sevananda: http://www.sevananda.coop) #
  • *sigh* #

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The famous dressing

Been meaning to blog this for over a month. I don’t feel like formatting it so I’m just going to dump it in here. This is the recipe for the famous Luis dressing, which was my dad’s recipe which he originally got from his friend Mike and adapted to make it his own. It is, hands-down, no contest, THE BEST dressing ever, and I will hear no protests to the contrary. And, as it goes w/ any devoted cook, this isn’t a hard and fast recipe with exact measurements. You really have to use your eyes and your judgment. This is the framework.

Celery (approx. 3 stalks) - cooked
Onion (approx. 3/4) - cooked
Whole wheat bread - 6-7 slices
French bread - 2 loaves - let sit out overnight to get harder
eggs - 2 or 3 (probably 2; if 3, consistency will be more like a cake; use 3 if making a bigger batch, too)
Craisins
1 red apple (peeled)
Pepperidge Farm stuffing mix (approx. 1/2 bag)
Butter (several small pieces) - cut a small slice off and then cut it into thirds both ways
Salt, pepper, onion powder, garlic powder, celery salt, basil, oregano, pinch of sage - for all the spices (except the sage), use more than you think you’ll need
Paprika on top after spread in baking dish

Put all the ingredients in the biggest container you have, in the sink. Periodically add water from the faucet as you mush it all together with your hands. Initially you’ll think there’s no way everything will fit in your biggest container, but once you’re adding water and mushing it up, it will fit. Your hands will get stuff all over them; you can’t be shy about it. Don’t try to use a spoon or any other ridiculous thing, it won’t work.

Bake at 350 30-45 mins.
Fork needs to come out not gushy
Use two 2-qt. baking dishes for this standard amt.

In 2007, Rusty had his first opportunity to experience making the dressing. Here are some pictures:

Rusty making the dressing

Dressing ready for the oven

The dressing is done!

My mom and I made it again this Thanksgiving as an homage to my dad. I’ve made it myself for years and will continue to do so. Adding Craisins was my idea, actually. They used to use regular raisins. And my aunt and uncle in upstate New York add almonds. It’s infinitely adaptable!

links for 2009-01-02

Twitter updates for 2009-01-01

  • Happy 2009 everyone - unless you’re on the West Coast #
  • Spamming Twitter w/ a retweet of our end-of-year podcast, now that it’s Jan. 1: http://is.gd/elgZ #
  • At Nalley Nissan waiting for my car to be serviced. Everybody in the waiting room is talking about this show that’s on about a fugitive. #
  • Now “Peggy Sue Got Married” is on the TV in the car service center waiting room #
  • at office depot getting them to print something for me & hoping they don’t mess it up. #
  • Back home. Might take a short nap, then make a salad for lunch. #
  • Via @uncool01, http://tinyurl.com/7ay73k - Petition to defer any bill on prostitution until after the next general election in the UK. #
  • Michigan State and Georgia are playing for the first time in, if not ever, a LONG time. My alma mater and my dad’s alma mater. #
  • Ok, the cat’s out of the bag (notice: Facebook link) - http://is.gd/en1i @tessa/@pfasono’s intro graf made me have to Google “dauber” #
  • My last tweet was not search engine optimized. Translation: I’m hosting the next Social Media Club ATL mtg http://is.gd/en1i (Facebook link) #
  • Slowly but surely making Bingo cards for #smcatl meeting. Most of them are jagged/uneven. Deal with it. #
  • @sunluff - Now there’s a mental picture in reply to sunluff #
  • Speaking of #smcatl - if anyone has ideas for good, funny (and cheap, ’cause this is on *my* budget!) Bingo prizes, DM me #
  • @RogueReverend - Glad to hear somebody else knows the origins of that tradition! Collards = dollar bills, black-eyed peas = coins in reply to RogueReverend #
  • Ok, scratch that, @rustytanton is going to help me remake the Bingo cards as 8.5″x11″. Why didn’t I think of that the first time?? #
  • Ha, according to the BBC, the most common pregnancy craving is “pickles and peanut butter.” Y’all know that’s my sandwich. #
  • Aaaand Stuff White People Like has chosen to give proceeds to a charity that “rescues America’s children from prostitution.” :\ #
  • @sunluff - Careful with that “when” there, missy in reply to sunluff #

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Social Media Club ATL January meeting

One week from today, I’ll be here; will you? (note: link is a Facebook page)

SMC ATL: Online Identity and Buzzword Bingo

When: Thursday, January 8, 7:00pm - 8:30pm
Where: Manuel’s Tavern - North Avenue Room

Thanks to Amber Rhea for leading the conversation and bingo game! Bring your bingo dauber and POV on these identity topics!

  • Is your online identity different from your IRL identity?
  • What does it mean to “manage your online identity”?
  • Are there any off-limits topics on blogs? Who decides?
  • Rethinking the personal/professional dichotomy and tearing down the walls of compartmentalization: yea or nay?

If you would like to add to the topics or join Amber in a panel format - please contact Peter or Tessa about your interest.

January sponsors needed! Please contact us if you can offer event food and beverage support.

Like the description says, if you’re interested in doing a panel-ish format, get in touch w/ Tessa or Peter (or me!) in the next day or two.

Life notes as of Jan. 1

Since it’s New Year’s Day, I’ll start this post by saying I have a new resolution. I got the idea from US News & World Report, of all places. They had a cover story called “50 Ways to Improve Your Life in 2009,” which I read in the bathroom at my mom’s house. One of the suggestions was this:

Distill your day’s experiences into a single sentence each day. Call it a “clothes hanger” journal: It provides a framework on which to hang the larger raiments of memory. A few well-chosen words can transport you back to where you were days or years ago. And—if you’re persistent—it can show you the shape of your life over time.

Luann Robins, a 79-year-old grandmother of five who lives in Rhinelander, Wis., has kept such records for most of her life, storing her five-year diaries in a cedar chest at the foot of her bed. “Sometimes they bring back great memories that I might have forgotten,” says Robins. Her journals are filled with comments on the weather, odd events, and her children’s and grandchildren’s news.

This is something different from blogging. I’m going to try to write a few sentences every day - just mundane stuff about what I did that day. This is not to say that mundane stuff won’t appear on the blog, too! But my point is, this is just more of a straight-up record. Like today, I wrote, “Took my car to Nalley Nissan for a routine service appt. Last night watched our friends’ wedding webcast online.” The particular book I’m writing in, I started in September 2003 but sometimes went years between entries. I used to be a prolific journal-keeper, and then I started a blog and moved some of that stuff online. I tried to keep up both, but it was never really the same. I think this is a good balance.

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As much as I’m making my best effort not to be one of those people who, when looking for a house, is totally consumed by it and that’s all they talk about and everyone gets sick of hearing about it, as if they think they’re the only person who ever bought a house - well, I’m going to blog a little about our house hunt!

Monday and Tuesday morning, we went out with our Realtor and looked at houses. In total we’ve seen 15 houses - not including three we didn’t bother going in for various reasons. We’ve been, in our Realtor’s words, “copious note takers” and in typical nerd fashion made a Google document with all the notes and info for the houses we like. We originally had six houses on that list, but after much thought it’s been reduced to three. Here they are:

If these pictures look familiar, it’s because the houses were on the market when we were doing our “driving around and looking” routine in November, and I posted pictures then.

The first one is by far our favorite. When we walked in, we both had that “gut feeling” my mom talked about. But, there’s a problem: the next door neighbors have two big dogs which barked their fool heads off the entire time they were there. Yes, even when we were inside the house, and yes, you could hear them inside; and the master bedroom is on that side of the house. Long story short, we had basically scratched it off our list with much gnashing of teeth. The listing agent emailed our agent and said she and the seller had never heard the dogs bark like that; “yeah right,” we thought, taking it with the appropriate serving of salt. But since then, we’ve driven by the house three times at various times of day and haven’t heard the dogs. I got out and walked around the yard one of those times. Apparently, according to a second email from the listing agent, the neighbors are a nice gay couple who were “mortified” to hear that their dogs were making so much noise. So we’re wary, but haven’t abandoned all hope. We’re going to see the house again tomorrow and knock on the neighbors’ door; hopefully they’ll be home and be reasonable people we can talk to. Cross your fingers for us!

The other two houses are good, too; I could see myself living in all three of them. But the top one is definitely our fave, minus the possible dog situation. :P

Why do people have dogs if they aren’t going to take care of them properly and make sure they have proper obedience training? Who the hell thinks it’s okay for a dog to bark all the time? Like the guy who lives next door to my grandmother, he has a big dog that he leaves in the backyard all the time and it’s always barking - scares my grandmother half to death every time she walks outside. And yes, she’s called the police, and no, there’s nothing they can do. One police officer who came out just made it worse by antagonizing the dog and getting it even more riled up. Recently some teenagers broke into the house on the other side, and the owner was like, “Your dog was barking the whole time and you didn’t think to come see if anything was the matter??” The guy’s answer? “My dog barks all the time” - said with a shrug.

The phrase “defeating the purpose” comes to mind.

But back to house-hunting in general, this reminds me of at Sara’s (awesome, impressive, delicious) Christmas party, when Garrett and I were chatting and I said, “When did this happen? When did we become grown-ups? We’re sitting here talking about mortgages and babies!”

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It will show up in my del.icio.us auto-post tomorrow morning (which, btw, I’m glad to know at least someone reads!) but I just wanted to reiterate how much I love this post by Kim. With the Rick Warren stuff, I’m trying really damn hard not to say “I told you so” to some of the more obnoxiously zealous Obama supporters. Now, if anyone wants to construe this as support for McCain or overt Obama-hate, all I can say is stop being an idiot. I made no secret that I was an Obama supporter in the election, BUT I was really bothered by the groupthink/lock-step mentality I saw among some of his supporters, where you couldn’t question him at all or else you were CAST OFF THE ISLAND. Construing someone as so perfect and flawless unnerved me from the beginning, because it’s just not realistic, and should be especially red-flag-worthy for a candidate who’s trying to run on a platform of being accessible, transparent, and bringing change to the political process.

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Niki sent me this e-card right before I was planning to send it to a bunch of people. By now it’s been all over Twitter so I’m sure it’s old news, but I still find it amusing in the way only someone who takes anti-depressant meds can.

~*~

I have some partially written posts saved in draft mode about things like Peggy Denby of the Midtown Neighbors Association comparing prostitutes to cockroaches; the royally fucked-up situation with Dymond Milburn; and the gang-rape of a San Francisco woman who was attacked for being a lesbian. I will try to finish them when I have the energy. These are important issues and I am, as usual, struggling to find the balance between taking care of myself/not drowning in the mire of upsetting news, and giving these things the attention they need, especially to people who are blissfully ignorant. In the meantime - if you’re a British citizen, please be sure to sign this petition calling to defer any bill on prostitution until after the next general election; and if you’re not a Brit, spread the word!

Favorite tweets December

Like last month, here are the tweets I favorited this month. I think this will probably become a tradition.


[redacted] I ordered something with ostrich feathers on it, and my cat is already attempting to eat & have sex with it…at the same time. 4:59 PM Dec 31st, 2008 from web

jonnodotcom Woman sitting across from me demonstrating cavalier French attitude towards public diaper changing _and_ breastfeeding. Ah, Europe! 6:23 AM Dec 28th, 2008 from twitterrific

jomc Happy Return That Fug Sweater Day! 4:56 AM Dec 26th, 2008 from mobile web

absurdities Stuck in endless line @ SeaTac & the crazy cat lady has started screaming. Um, help. 6:25 PM Dec 22nd, 2008 from mobile web

[redacted] Body parts are in the oven. Going to work on 2008 meme on the new blog. 3:45 PM Dec 21st, 2008 from TwitterBerry

audaciaray LOL, one of my students put “nap” as the final stage of sexual arousal 3:00 PM Dec 21st, 2008 from web

kimberleecline servants are refilling my champagne and I am wrestling slaves and pissing in men’s mouths. Life is good. 1:32 AM Dec 21st, 2008 from Hahlo

seasonothebitch Just saw a guy on a bike dressed as a driedel. 9:29 PM Dec 20th, 2008 from txt

audaciaray uh-oh. my mild competence with computers and ability to calmly explain things has been discovered at my job. 11:05 AM Dec 18th, 2008 from web

eternal42 Yay! Our fucking plane is finally fucking here. I’m so fucking happy I could smack Martin Scorcese in the fucking face. 2:07 PM Dec 17th, 2008 from txt

NikolHasler Indiana is a real bag job of a state. 3:09 PM Dec 14th, 2008 from txt

eternal42 Kevin Smith, Zach and Miri was a massive let-down. WTF? If you fuck someone then you belong together as long as you don’t fuck someone else? 3:15 PM Dec 13th, 2008 from web

SpaceyG Don’t you HATE pretentious wanker fucks who RSVP “No” to Evites w/ stuff like “Hate that I can’t be there but working for State Dept.” 1:59 PM Dec 12th, 2008 from web

sunluff These mints are curiously strong… Kind of like how I want my dream man to be. 1:45 PM Dec 12th, 2008 from web

tyre @amberlrhea hello can you share with me your view on sex and its importants in a person day to day life? please 9:02 AM Dec 11th, 2008 from web in reply to amberlrhea

tonysimon I cannot begin to express in fewer than 140 characters the unbridled douchebaggery of people who buy into “Irish Pub” culture. 10:59 PM Dec 10th, 2008 from web

[redacted] I’m not sure if I can take a website seriously if they put hyperlink code in their <title> tag. 7:50 PM Dec 10th, 2008 from iTweet

melissagira My new dentist plays hot jazz in his exam room. But why am I spontaneously kegeling? 7:45 PM Dec 10th, 2008 from twitterrific

[redacted] just saw the bossy chick (Kim?) from the I Want To Work For Diddy show in Kroger. she was being bossy. 7:39 PM Dec 10th, 2008 from txt

gvonk @tonysimon @jenbrock I drink 2/day. Side effects include tracheal meerkat colonies and involuntary Narnia adventures. 3:57 PM Dec 8th, 2008 from web in reply to tonysimon

meyerweb It was fifteen years (and three days) ago that I marked up my first HTML document. What a longdesc, onchange trip it’s been. 4:19 PM Dec 6th, 2008 from web

Aerik @amberlrhea: blogs ARE dead, read all about why I think blogs suxx0rz at my new blog at do.uche.bag 11:14 PM Dec 5th, 2008 from foxytunes in reply to amberlrhea

lauriewrites @amberlrhea That made me lol, and I know, right? Get over it. Write a new post. “Blogs are dead” posts are dead. Stop. 11:14 PM Dec 5th, 2008 from web in reply to amberlrhea

[redacted] Business travel expertise is unattractive when flaunted. 8:37 AM Dec 3rd, 2008 from txt

melissagira Since when did sleeping around become incompatible with success? 4:07 PM Dec 2nd, 2008 from web

meyerweb Apparently Web 3.0 will be companies buying the community services Web 2.0 built and shedding the communities by killing the services. 11:45 AM Dec 2nd, 2008 from twitterrific

And I just feel the need to offer a bit of an explanation for my favoriting of the tweet from “tyre.” I blocked them, but I couldn’t resist favoriting that particular tweet because I found it hilarious. Yes, strange random person I don’t know who can’t spell, I will totally tell you all about my view (singular!) on sex and life - in 140 characters or less.

links for 2009-01-01

  • "I took my chances. I still remember the morning I went to meet an old teacher of mine for coffee over at a bookshop a few weeks later, and triumphantly announced, 'I’m not pregnant!' The woman at the table next to us gave me a dirty look. I scowled right back. I was so happy. I wasn’t going to treat an unplanned pregnancy as anything other than an unplanned pregnancy. The possibility of it was not 'joyful' to me, and I was not going to pretend otherwise.

    I wonder where the dirty look woman is in the world today. I wonder about the nurse that called me a slut. I wonder why it was so damn important for these two individuals to show their disapproval, try to keep me in line, try to make me feel ashamed: I was not their daughter, I was not even the daughter of a friend. They didn’t know me."

  • "The most intriguing and possibly exciting news, however, is that Martin is still proposing that a free wireless Internet service be implemented, but without the filters and with more open access/net neutrality requirements. The basic speed offered would be modest (768kbps), but under the rule proposed, the winning bidder would be forced to allow any device or application to be connected to the network, and there would be timetables for getting access available to end users (50% within 4 years; 95% by the end of the 10-year license period)."
  • "In the nearly ten years I've been working in the sex industry, everyone I've met has had an opinion about my work. When it comes to prostitution, everyone has an opinion. Moreover, everyone feels entitled to their opinion, and sure it's based on some sort of reality about the sex industry – even if the limit of their knowledge is seeing the hooker get shot in the first reel of the movie to get the plot going. Indeed, there seems to be some sort of inverse correlation between the ignorance of the speaker and the vehemence with which they hold their opinion.
    So it is with the laws being proposed by the Home Office today. Well-intentioned they may be, but they are entirely out of touch with the reality of working in the sex industry, and they would know this if they had chosen to listen to sex workers themselves."
  • "So what do we do with this? The danger that prostitution may be pushed underground is real and it’s effects are seen in Scotland. The advantages of decriminalisation are shown in New Zealand (h/t to HangBitch). It would seem logical to talk about what is most adventageous to sex workers. All barring one of these examples above are sex workers working on the street. These examples of what’s been happening in the UK this year is on the tip of the iceberg. God only knows how many sex workers have been sexually assaulted these past few years in England and Wales.

    So do we, British society, talk about decriminalisation? No. We talk about definitions, semantics. 'Sex worker' or 'prostitute'. Is it work? We talk about the ickiness of prostitution as though that justifies all these crimes against women. We debate the morality of it, is it right to sell sex? We place ideology above the safety of these women."

  • Ha!! I love this. All of them are spot on. And I have two to add to the list, although one is a phrase, not a word: "meh" and "[x] like whoa."

Twitter updates for 2008-12-31

  • Had breakfast at Radial. Back home now. Trying to decide if I want to go to Old Navy today or put it off. #
  • My most-commented-on blog posts of 2008: http://is.gd/eiFQ #
  • Procrastinating on going out to Old Navy and post office (not that @absurdities will mind on the latter). I think a nap is in order instead. #
  • @absurdities - Your use of “post” as a verb to mean “mail” is so British. And I first, of course, I thought of blog posts. in reply to absurdities #
  • Snacking on blueberries #
  • My plans are coming together for the January Atlanta Social Media Club meeting… *rubs hands together connivingly* #
  • Ha!! Love it… RT @viviane212: “maverick,” “green,” “bailout,” 2009 List of Banished Words: http://tinyurl.com/48cj6 #
  • Dare I try to catch up on reading feeds? #
  • I hate when mailing lists don’t have an unsubscribe option. How did I get put on the Augusta Parent newsletter? :P #
  • @nikkistrick - Stage 3: profit? in reply to nikkistrick #
  • LOL, a Google search hit my site for “swingers in Milledgeville” #
  • Tonight I’m not going to take a half-Ambien. Trying to not take it so frequently. #
  • @absurdities - Fuck going out. Going out on NYE sucks. I’m staying in and watching a friend’s wedding webcast (seriously) and Office DVDs. in reply to absurdities #
  • Looking fwd to watching @jenbrock’s wedding webcast! :) #
  • @gvonk - Ours has been having problems too & the maintenance guy told us about a little red ‘reset’ switch. But you prob. thought of that. in reply to gvonk #
  • My doctor and WebMD say Ambien isn’t addictive. Google search for “is ambien addictive” says otherwise; what to believe? I guess it depends. #
  • @jenbrock - I second @SpaceyG - your dress was *awesome*, your hair looked great, loved the flowers! Congrats!! in reply to jenbrock #
  • @playwithmatch @chasrmartin - Good distinction. I take 5 mgs a night but will try to wean myself off. @sheatsb That’s what I’m afraid of :P in reply to playwithmatch #
  • Blogs that are written as if a cat, dog, or baby is the author really creep me out. #

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10 most commented posts of 2008

Here they are, folks, thanks to a plug-in called “Most Commented,” which apparently accomplishes the same thing as this sexy query. The number of comments don’t rival my most commented in 2005, where the top post got 100 comments and several others came close; I suppose that’s due in part to RSS and other technologies which detach people from the actual site of the blog they’re reading. Let’s all make a resolution for 2009: more blog commenting!!

  1. Words matter, part 2,465,986 (28) - Written shortly after the Spitzer story broke, this is a post about the importance and impact of the language journalists choose to use when writing about sex workers.
  2. Summation (26) - A post summarizing the shit that went down on the *OMG super-secret* email list I was a part of in late 2007/early 2008. The fallout of me daring to ask questions ended up putting me in a really bad headspace.
  3. What’s kinky? (25) - “Kinky” is one of those words that’s tossed around a lot but doesn’t have a clear definition. Ask 10 people what it means and you’ll get 10 different answers - which is exactly what happened in this thread.
  4. Quick brain dump (22) - Some thoughts on the treatment of sex work as a “different” kind of career (or even a job and not a long-term career) and how much of that is warranted vs. how much is just recycled patriarchal stereotyping; also, why it’s important for college students to be treated as the adults they are.
  5. Three years! (20) - Rusty and I celebrated our 3-year anniversary this year. :) This is a breakdown of how it all came to be.
  6. Tie for #6, with 19 comments:
    • Strip club etiquette - Pretty self-explanatory. A guy showed up with somewhat creepy comments, even though the people I was most interested in hearing from were (duh) actual strippers.
    • Feminist allies - The importance of men being vocal feminist allies instead of just throwing their hands up and saying they can’t be bothered.
  7. Five-way(!) tie for #7, with 18 comments:
  8. Three-way tie for #8 with 17 comments:
    • And again, and again, and again… - People clutch their pearls about pole dancing (again!) and my patience is tested.
    • Response to Hugo Schwyzer - Long response to a post Hugo Schwyzer wrote about anti-sex work viewpoints and his attempt to “bridge the divide.”
    • Libertarians! - Blockquoted comments I left at Ren’s blog, wherein I talk about different types of Libertarians and why even though I like some of what they say, for the most part I have trouble taking them seriously.
  9. Three-way tie for #9 with 16 comments:
    • What’s kinky, indeed - Follow-up to the “What’s kinky?” post above, where I write about the different responses I received as well as my own conception of what kinky means.
    • 5th Feminist Carnival of Sexual Freedom and Autonomy - Doesn’t get much more self-explanatory than that!
    • Annoyed!! - A rant about vacuum cleaners, which ultimately inspired me to buy a Roomba (and keep the Dirt Devil because the crevice tool has some serious sucking power).
  10. Who I am is good enough.* (14) - A self pep talk, including an early new year’s resolution to remember to trust my intuition. Most of the comments were very nice and helped me feel a little better.

Okay… onward to 2009!

links for 2008-12-31

  • "But more than that, I like the candor. I’m a little tired of the coy push-and-pull that we teach young women, as if they should play up their sexuality but ultimately recoil from sexual activity, resulting in our classically conflicted nympho-puritanical views: we’re sex-saturated (advertising, porn) yet we’re also sex-avoidant (MPAA, morality laws). If we’re talking about depictions of women, I want to see more of this, of women looking you in the eye and fucking owning their sex. I want to see more women like Sasha Grey and Charlotte Stokely."
  • "However, to be perfectly frank - my opinion on sex work is, essentially, inconsequential. One may think sex work is immoral, anti-feminist, 'icky', whatever. The simple fact is there are women out there who are vulnerable and made more vulnerable by bullshit laws. Let’s say we do nothing, keep the laws as they are now. What next? To quote the indomitable Renegade Evolution (a sex worker, sex workers rights activist and blogger), what’s the plan? Harm reduction (discussed here by Ren for Feministe) is the priority here, religion, morality, feminism, that’s not the major concern right now. The need to protect vulnerable women, respect women’s right to choose to sell sex and ensure a safe working environment for women are the priorities. There are times I’m at a complete loss as to why feminists cannot agree to this."
    Caroline wrote a great post; but the "discussion" (I use the term loosely, bc basically it's one jackass derailing) in the comments is SO frustratingly typical.

Twitter updates for 2008-12-30

  • About to go look at more houses #
  • Saw a few more good houses #
  • We saw our perfect house today EXCEPT for 2 loud barking dogs next door. F&%$ing dogs, argh!! #
  • Bah, my essay proposal was rejected for the Seal Press “click moment” anthology. Ah well. Up side is now I don’t have to write an essay! #
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